On the other hand, it's normal to have heroes, and to need to have them.
Not really.
One dichotomy categorisation I personally look for in people is: * likes heirachy versus * dislikes heirachy.
I suspect heroes are mostly relevant if you are a heirachy lover? I also believe that heirachy lovers are more likely to believe in evil puppetmaster conspiracies (anti-heroes if you will).
It is a lot harder to find heroes if you dislike authority because your heroes are more likely to avoid heirachical status ladders?
Heroes like Spiderman and Batman? Or strangers that put on a mask, and whose public image is maintained by PR firms?
Not really, that’s what leads to parasocial relationships.
Nobody is flawless and part of becoming an adult is learning to admire specific qualities rather than obsess over individuals.
This is a child mindset, people don't need heroes. They need leaders that care about them and want to better their communities; these leaders are found within your literal neighbors, friends, and family.