I see what you mean, and lack of a rejection email from the server is not proof of delivery either.
I was looking to things like state process service laws. It doesn't seem like any type of receipt is required for electronic proof of service in California, for instance https://law.justia.com/codes/california/code-ccp/part-2/titl...
I don't know how laws work here but I can't imagine having adequate "proof of service" fully insulates you from all possible claims of non-receipt, especially electronically? Like what if the recipient was in a coma or on active duty in the middle of a war zone or something? There have got to be exceptions here to handle some cases of non-receipt despite proof of delivery, so the question of whether spam classification might be one such exception doesn't seem automatically invalid.