I treat my phones carefully, I've literally never cracked a screen on any of them, the same goes for handling the charging cable and port. I'm always quite gentle with it, never leaving it propped up by the cable or at a weird angle, and the cables I used were the original ones that came with my devices. Mainly because my phones spend a lot of time plugged in acting as a hotspot for half a week, so I try to minimize the harm I cause by the extra (un)plug events.

The Lightning port iPhone that I used for 3 years however handled my usage just fine (just tried it now and it feels just like it did new), and the USB-C one I've had for half a year seems to be holding up fine as well. These I used with a mix of cheap Aliexpress cables and the genuine Apple ones.