> The problem with that is there are women that will scoff at a man trying to do something casual like coffee, tea, or ice cream for a first date.

You're using the casual meeting as a filter for certain personalities.

There are plenty of people out there who prefer a more formalized approach to dating, and good for them. You have a different preference. Being selective is good because it saves both of you time and there are no hard feelings.

> They want to be wined and dined and treated like a princess right off the bat. They think they're a prize to be won simply by being a woman.

Thinking about people you aren't interested in will just grind your gears.