The reboots are very much about growth -- she starts off as a scared teenager but grows into an unstoppable killing machine by the end. I could see them being less appealing to women though just because of the intense amount of violence in those games (as compared to the original ones)
That's not growth, that's a regression. That is trauma and suffering.
Nathan Drake is similarly presented as a hero, but requires a deep psychopathic disconnect from reality to exist as a character.