Parent said often, not always. Counter examples is an anecdote.
I would like to see good statistics on this.
And your wife’s opinion on her choices.
The counter example my be anecdotal, but the original claim is also baseless. It's not anecdote vs data, it's anecdote vs nothing.
I'd love to see statistics as well.
My wife self-reports as very happy and talks a lot about how proud she is of the decision. I'll acknowledge that we are privileged in terms of support -- 3 relative families within 30 minutes and most people in a 100 meter radius attend the same church. Even in our setup, however, we really wish we could swing a multi-generational setup and have grandparents around all the time.
Maybe the Amish are on to something!