It's insane to me how big companies don't realize how far these little things go.
I worked at a publicly traded company worth tens of billions of dollars where I had to escalate to the VP level to get reimbursed when I paid for our team to send flowers to one of our team members after his mother was murdered. Expensing books, courses, or equipment is essentially out of the question and getting approval for team events requires a business related reason and are regularly denied.
I worked at a 50 person company where on my first day I arrived and there was a company logo'd Patagonia jacket on my desk and a small bottle of Veuve Clicquot. I worked at a different just allocated every team $100 per person every 6 months and said, "Do something with it. The only rules are you can't just pocket it and it has to be spent as a team."
The large company paid me triple what those other companies did, which is why I stayed for nearly 8 years, but in my head they're the cheap bastards who didn't care about their employees. I have such better memories of the companies who paid me far, far less, but set aside a few hundred bucks a year to do something special. I understand the big tech company mindset of, "If we're paying you half a million dollars a year you should be able to buy your own damn beer", but I think they forget that their employees are human and often it really is the thought that counts.
When I was a manager in a start-up, ages ago, I argued the CEO against handing a (small) one-off bonus to one of my team members, and rather went shopping for a nice gift with the same sum. One of them was purely a transaction, the other one was a gift.
I believe that I was right.
>I worked at a 50 person company where on my first day I arrived and there was a company logo'd Patagonia jacket on my desk and a small bottle of Veuve Clicquot.
I have the opposite experience and mindset. Companies I worked for would cheap out on salaries, but would buy random knick knacks, jackets, food and drinks for the workers, making the young naive version of me thinking that the company values us even though we were all working below market wages, while the CEO had a massive house and a supercar. Turns out that pizza, coke and a softshell jacket every year is much much cheaper than a yearly wage increase.
Now, I worked for a company who last year cut all the parties, food, drinks, team events, 3 year HW refresh cycle, even the color printers, to ensure we'll still get to keep above average salaries through the tremulous times our industry is going through. Absolute respect. I'd rather have more money to pay the ever increasing bills, than pizzas and a 50 Euro softshell jacket.
>I understand the big tech company mindset of, "If we're paying you half a million dollars a year you should be able to buy your own damn beer", but I think they forget that their employees are human and often it really is the thought that counts.
I wonder if it's possible to tell this story on how dehumanizing it felt to not get free beer with a half million dollar salary, to an average laborer, with a straight face, and expecting any reciprocating "working class" empathy.
The companies realize this, your mistake is expecting capitalists to not exploit labor.
If you want actual improved working conditions, there is only one path that has proven to work and it involves organizing with other workers while resisting your bosses through whatever means you feel comfortable with.
The US has one of the most violent labor histories on the planet for a reason. The elites in this country absolutely do not like relinquishing control to an accountable public. There is a reason why the constitution was written as a document to benefit a minority of slavers, just like there is a reason why you don't get time-and-a-half when you're on-call as a tech worker; a group of undemocratic individuals want to hold dominion over your life while shaking you down for everything you're worth.
I think maybe there are fundamentally different slots that employers fill in people’s perceptions. For myself, I will never imagine that a company cares about me even in some ephemerally meaningful way. No amount of perks or even pay will change that. There are individuals perhaps that care, but an organisation does not have the capacity for caring and overtures aping loyalty come off as disingenuous.
I value compensation and comforts as inducements to align my incentives to the needs of the organisation and as enablers, but I would never confuse incentive alignment with some kind of emotional or empathetic bond or contract.
I don’t feel any way about organisations because they don’t feel about me.
But I understand that some people do.
I do feel some way about goals, projects, people, even teams insofar as a group of people closely aligned can have its own emotional character, but at the level of an organisation that has goals that need not be aligned with my well being, I just don’t catch feelings of any kind.
By observation, though, I think many people seek parental, familial, or community surrogate relationships in work culture. It seems to me that with vanishingly rare exceptions this always leads to disappointment or something worse… it seems like wilful ignorance of the incentives at play, or maybe a misunderstanding of genuine social bonds.
People don’t bond because of how wonderful they are, they bond because they seem useful to each other in some way. If your value is as a producer, that’s a very transactional relationship that should not be confused with genuine interdependence of trust.