First and foremost: I'm sorry for you. Living in a participation-dictated-by-app hellscape sucks. But most people only realize this when the magical one or two steps happen that force them to "touch grass".

With regards to specific points that match with my reality:

> "My fiance's office badges are smartphone-based. You cannot enter otherwise."

I worked for a company where that was a thing. Easy fix: They issued me (and others) a smartphone for that. And that slab never left the workplace either; I fetched/returned it before/after my day by notifying the security desk.

Everything else on your list is either irrelevant or unnacceptable to me, or simply illegal where I live.