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kxrmyesterday at 11:15 PM2 repliesview on HN

Let me preface this by saying, I know this might be a privileged take. However, I've had some bad interview experiences but one thing I have never had happen and I never will do is cross the "just business"/"personal" line with anyone I may or am working with.

> hardest day of my life, my biggest life challenges, and other similar “trauma-baiting” questions.

I would take these types of questions as "from a professional standpoint". If the interviewer corrected and wanted personal answers, the interview would be over.


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WatchDogtoday at 12:00 AM

> ...I never will do is cross the "just business"/"personal" line with anyone I may or am working with.

Just in an interview situation, or you will just never be open to a personal friendship with anyone you ever work with?

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simgttoday at 12:37 AM

Thanks for that sensible answer, had to scroll down quite a while to find you there.

The real problem is that for many people it takes a while to realize you're being abused, in that case it was only a while after.

I highly recommend learning the basics of persuasion and how to manipulate people. It helps identifying the signs early.