My threshold for asking for help might be a little higher than the median, but, I like this operating style personally. Maybe it's just how I was raised, but the thought of not trying to figure something out for myself first is unthinkable. I fill like I get plenty of human connection at work and collaborate with peers and other disciplines plenty.
I'm not in tech, I'm in civil engineering so maybe it's just a difference in the types of problems we have in different industries.
I do find it very frustrating when an EIT asks me how to do something and it's clear that they haven't even read the instructions page to the excel sheet that they literally have open. I have time to mentor peers and subordinates but I want them to treat my time with the same respect that they treat their own.
hey that's perfectly understandable, and yeah, definitely there is a group that wants you to "do the work for them". I was reacting more to a kind of question/chat shaming I've seen -- where engineers act like they're optimizing 99% of their precious time and mental energy and can't be bothered to make a humanized workplace experience for others.