Interesting, so you think the real "me", is the one that interacts with computers?
And the "me" that lives in a tiny southern town just to help my 95 year old grandma in her last years at the expense of my economic prospects is a facade.
The "me" that helps my aging neighbor when she's sick for no reason is a facade.
The "me" that hugs and loves my wife when I get home is a facade.
The "me" that brushes my aging dogs teeth every night because she has dental issues is a facade.
The "me" that flies to my friend I haven't seen for years and takes care of them after extreme health issues is a facade.
But,the "me" that puts tokens in a token machine in a way that gets better accuracy is the "real" me.
Oh. I also play violent video games where I murder people sometimes as well. Do you think that makes me secretly a murderer too?
Yes - the real "you" is the one making all of those choices you just said you made, to help people and pets, or to engage in a form of play - which by definition is not "real" - including your decision to create an outgroup you believe you are allowed to treat in a lesser way.
This is not a game of having done X good things in life and therefore being afforded the right to do Y bad things. You are making a choice to say, "I am allowing myself to treat this thing I believe is lesser than me in a way I willingly acknowledge is bad." That's your thesis. I wholeheartedly disagree with it.