I’ve always felt this automation shouldn’t exist at all, but should rather be selectively controlled via a hook. The hooks yarn offers out of the box for example can be used to run any code you need to after install. Putting the project owner in control instead of the dependency.

Nuget/.NET ecosystem just handles it so much better. Netvips assumes libvips is available and they provide packages for common platforms. No need to waste electricity rebuilding stuff, or install native build chains, build and test deps. Similar for Skia or Sqlite or whatever.