Heh, for a second there this read like some of the Portiid adventures with Bianca and Fabian from Adrian Tchaikovsky's book "Children of time". If you find this kind of thing interesting and are a fan of sci-fi, I highly recommend the book.
Children of Time is fantastic! I ended up totally rooting for the spiders in the end.
Children of Time is one of the best books I've ever read, it's honestly amazing. It might be my all-time favorite. Seconding this recommendation!
And the Underhill spiderlings in A Deepness in the Sky by Vernor Vinge too!
Another great book that I usually reread right before rereading Children of Time because the whole spider civilization angle is so fun.