Does the "attester" knows who is requesting the information?
Can they map which places requests which person?
That depends on the setup but is not related to the ZKP part. “who is requesting the proof that person X has a gov ID where age >= N” is irrelevant in the context of the proof.
AFAIK, If the scheme is designed properly, then no. The attestor only knows who they have issued certificates to and the verifier only knows that they have a user that has been verified by that user. Neither the attestor or the verifier can link the two any further than that, even if they collaborate.