It is comforting to find other people experiencing the exact same reality as me, since I see so much in this post that matches my own experience.

It reminds me of all the recent talk about "taste". Architecture "quality" may not be objective in a right/wrong sense, in the same way that fashion isn't right/wrong. It's like we are all going to have to relinquish reason/rationality to the machine and start to study up on aesthetics.

Even historically, my big struggles have usually been deciding between two nearly-equivalent options. I get this a lot now with LLMs because there is no break in-between these decisions that implementation used to force. I feel I'm constantly making "taste" calls between tradeoffs that have no clear objective criteria, and it is as exhausting as the code review this post (and my experience) suggests are still necessary, even with Fable/GPT-5.6 level models.

In many cases, I do what I've done with junior engineers whose code I reviewed pre-agent: make on-the-spot judgement calls. When I see a broken window, I call it out. But when I see minor issues, I sometimes just let it pass, note it in memory and tackle it wholesale once an accumulation of similar minor issues get to a certain size.

As a tangential aside, I consider two dev shops from pre-agent days. One decides to hire 7 extremely talented engineers and gets them to work closely together. The other decides to outsource to 100 decent engineers and tries to silo them into modules. I think we are facing a similar choice with agents. You can either work extremely closely with a handful of agents, collaborating on design, review, etc. Or you can spin up a fleet of sub-agents and YOLO, then try to separate the wheat from the chaff in some automated way. My taste is the former, small highly coordinated shop. But time will tell if I am right or wrong.