At the same time, the problem is too many parents on the Internet and their kids feel like they have to do this. I'm in the top 1% of household income, have a rich life with a great wife, failed for 7 years to have a kid but we tried. I had a 3.8 in high school, took 4 AP classes, lettered in four sports and was Vice President of the art club but did no other extracurriculars, never volunteered, and began school at a perfectly normal 830 or so. I also dropped out my first semester of college, didn't go back for three years, and started back at a community college when I did start back, and lived out of my car for a while working overnight shifts detailing restrooms at a theme park. Then I ultimately joined the Army, jacked up my spine, could scarcely walk for years and was inches from suicide, not making the shift to a software career until I was your age. It still worked out in the long run.

You don't need to have a great life right out of the gate. Life is pretty long.