Did you ever consider downsizing or renting to be closer to work? I can’t imagine choosing to commute that far every day.
By downsizing, you mean cramming my family into a crappy, small apartment in a terrible school district?
Most people don't "choose" to commute. They are forced to because of life constraints.
Of course? It wasn't really a choice, just making the best of bad and worse options.
That just shifts the personal cost from commute time to reduced quality of life at home.