> Outward behavior is that all matters

Yeah, but it's helpful if what leads up to that behavior gives you some warning it's about to happen. Animals do this for a reason since millions of years of evolution have shown that a snarl or mock charge is less dangerous than going right for a death match.

If you kept pushing an AI's buttons, seeing it appear to get more and more pissed off, until it finally snapped and killed you, then you'd have yourself largely to blame.

If the AI predicted it should stay positive (i.e. generate positive vibes) and not react to your poking, but then another predictive pattern kicked in and it killed you out of the blue, then that seems more problematic to me, even if you don't agree.