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PeterWhittaker • today at 8:42 PM • 2 replies • view on HN

If lifestyles support it, and parents are so inclined, I'd worry less about teaching the first few years and more about reading to them and with them, esp. with some silliness and improvisation, hiking, camping, and shopping as a family, especially at local markets.

Spend meaningful, loving time together, and out in the world, as much of the small scale natural world as you can. Listen to their questions, answer when you can, learn the answers together when you can't.

If they are accustomed to hiking and camping, especially wild camping, they will learn much from you and will ask for more.

If you shop together at markets, they will start to develop a more complete relationship with their food supply and with the people working it.

Empathy and kindness and resilience will develop in those experiences.

Later, when they are closer to school age, be as honest with them as you can about the different personalities they will encounter, the conformist teachers and students, the rebels, the do gooders, the no goods, etc., and comfort them that their people may be there right away or may not be there for decades.


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sivanmz • today at 9:27 PM

Some kids love learning at an early age. If not, it’s easy to find out. Don’t worry about teaching too soon.

awesome_dude • today at 8:53 PM

> Spend meaningful, loving time together, and out in the world, as much of the small scale natural world as you can. Listen to their questions, answer when you can, learn the answers together when you can't.

Learn to tell them that you don't have all the answers, and there's a chance that the pair of you can work together to find it out, but there will always be some things that nobody knows yet.

But, most of all, I cam here to say - the foundation you're suggesting building is the strongest one we know of - safety in their emotions, having someone they can talk to, share their feelings with without ridicule or fear.

Start there and children always have someone they can talk to