> And how do you size the arena?

Two options: you either say "eh 20MB per request ought to be big enough" and resize it later if you need to. Or you take time to figure out reasonable limits in terms of whatever domain you're dealing with, and return descriptive errors when those limits are exceeded. Maybe you're saying your service supports up to N HTTP headers and M query parameters in the URL and so on. For almost anything there's a limit you can place that's reasonable. Having no limits at all just means the limit is when you run out of memory / disk / whatever.

If you like RAII and C++ just use that though, Zig is an alternative not an upgrade, imo.