alt Hacker NewsMy spouse and I have a rule that if we think a discussion is going to be emotionally charged, we have it over text in different rooms.
It sounds autistic, but writing and reading allow you to be much more precise, careful, and deliberate with your words and helps reduce impulsive outbursts.
This has worked really well for us, as crazy as it sounds.
> My spouse and I have a rule that if we think a discussion is going to be emotionally charged, we have it over text in different rooms.
I've done this myself with my wife and I.
> It sounds autistic
Well, I'm autistic, and she has a very high traumatic intelligence. She reads my body language, expressions, movements more than what I say, and those are very easy to misinterpret or overinterpret. And she says things... but it's not actually what she means. By us writing/typing things out, we're able to communicate without stray signals creating noise.