> Read Anna Karenina sometime. Tolstoy shows both the aspect of a society in which rich men having affairs was considered the norm, and the destructive effect it has on people.

The person I replied to said "men," not "rich men." It is interesting that Russian aristocracy liked to bone down, but "rich people don't have affairs" is not what I was arguing. Having an affair is and has always been deeply frowned upon by human society as a whole, and society has always reacted by shaming the people who've been caught doing it.