It's one of those choice not choices. I love my partner a lot. We bought a house together with a great yard with a significant fruit and veggie garden.
Separating would be significantly destructive / damaging on both a personal and financial levels.
That said, I entered this relationship without fully understanding the impact of an autistic child. I would not condemn anyone who refused to be in a relationship if the other person had an autistic child.
> I would not condemn anyone who refused to be in a relationship if the other person had an autistic child.
Let me correct that for you,
> I would not condemn anyone who refused to be in a relationship if the other person had a child.
Being a step parent is one of the most difficult things a person can do.
If you can’t or don’t want to do it that’s fine.